Yes, men can have multiple orgasms too (well… kind of). This guide explains a technique we’ve found helps men have multiple orgasms and last longer during sex.
When we think of having multiple orgasms without a refractory period, we usually don’t think about men being blessed with this ability, but they are. Our prostate squeeze technique allows men to have multiple orgasms without a refractory period and last longer in bed. Almost anyone can master this technique with a little work and practice.
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When most men have an orgasm they experience a refractory period averaging from 15 minutes to 1 day. During the refractory period, they can’t establish an erection and have little desire for sex. Most women, however, are capable of enjoying multiple orgasms while making love to their husbands. When a woman has an orgasm, her level of arousal drops slightly afterward, but can quickly rebound if she’s continually being stimulated.
Male Anatomy: 101
Before we go into detail about learning how to have multiple orgasms, there are a few things you need to understand about the male body to be successful at achieving multiple orgasms.
The Prostate
His prostate is the gatekeeper for his semen, and controls its flow. During sex, his prostate starts to secrete prostate fluid. Some of the prostate fluid is sent through his urethra so that its pH is best suited for semen, and the rest of the prostate fluid builds up in anticipation of ejaculation. When orgasm occurs, the prostate mixes semen and prostate fluid and helps propel his semen during ejaculation.
Point Of No Return
Every man knows that feeling of the point of no return right before orgasm. During this time his prostate is mixing the prostate and semen in preparation for ejaculation.
Ejaculation
During ejaculation the penile muscles from his anus to his prostate contract in a pulsing rhythm and shoots his semen out through his urethra to pollinate his wife’s flower.
Technique For Having Multiple Orgasms
It turns out that if a man has an orgasm without ejaculating he doesn’t lose his ability to keep an erection, and his libido stays high. So how does a man have an orgasm without ejaculating?
Prostate Squeeze Technique
The prostate acts like a door for his semen and controls its flow. A big reason for his orgasm is for procreation, and if his semen isn’t released during an orgasm his body allows more “chances” for procreation to happen (multiple orgasms).
How to do the Prostate Squeeze Technique
- Build up your prostate strength: First, you need to build up your prostate muscles. The only way to do this is by doing lots of kegel exercises. Start off with 5 reps in the morning and 5 in the afternoon, and slowly work your way up to 15 long reps twice a day. This will probably take up to a month to achieve. Kegels will strengthen your prostate so that when the time comes you can easily hold back the ejaculate.
- Timing and willpower is everything: Once you can easily do 15 long kegel reps twice a day, it’s time for your first try. When you’re making love to your wife, and you reach that point of no return before orgasm, squeeze your prostate just before the first orgasm “pulse” and hold tight through the orgasm so that none or very little of your semen is ejaculated. This part is a true test of will. It won’t feel as good as when you ejaculate, but you’ll still feel mildly satisfied after the orgasm. It’s also a good idea during your first few attempts to stop all stimulation during the orgasms to decrease the chances of ejaculating. Once it has passed, you can get back to work loving your wife.
- Practice makes perfect: Once you get the hang of our prostate squeeze technique, having multiple orgasms and lasting longer will become second nature.
If it doesn’t work the first time, don’t get discouraged. Go back to doing more kegels, and try again later. A strong prostate and the will to squeeze during an orgasm takes practice. Half of the fun is trying, right? 😉
Do you have any tips for men achieving multiple orgasms? Share them in the comments below. Don’t be shy. We’d love to read them.
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El Fury says
Kegels, prostate control…. I should try this out, but I’m skeptical.
Marriage Bed Tips says
Thanks El Fury!
Andy says
I do kegels. I am no master but like any workout or muscle training start slow guys. I dont recommend jump starting your day tomorrow off the gate 5 n 5 then 15. You will be in pain next day. Your kegel or prostate squeeze is like any other muscle. You could strain aka pull a muscle or even tear it. Start small especially if you never done it before. It’s the muscle we use to stop our pee mid stream. Once you located it its easy to workout. If you really work your kegel one day like described here give a day to recover. It does work. Mine is not strong enough to stop my ejaculation but have noticed a difference how my erection is now. Your gun sits up different and erections are firmer. Also learn to press your kegels. Tightened works but sometimes it can lead to premature ejaculation because how tight you’ve got it. Pressing it is a more difficult task. It’s laying your kegel down. Like arm curls with dumbbells. It’s the resting of kegels but you have to push it flat. It’s not like described here. This action takes away the edge of the point of no return. Does not give you multi orgasms but does help you last longer. Tried and proven. Dont believe she’s a saved Christian but Caitlin V on youtube has a video on it. Hope this helped thanks guys
Bro. C says
This is new to me… I’ve heard the kegel way – not my like your method but stopping urine and holding it the 5 seconds – building up on that. It seems to work opposite for me.
However – what were all here for. I have been able to Multi-Orgasm if I keep stimulation going after my first. If I stop, or get two off focus and loose it I have to fight refractory. Then I can orgasm a second time, but it takes longer. It’s also better… I have carried it on to 8, each time its easier to carry on and skip refractory. However it’s harder to achieve the next level.
It makes for an excellent time with the wife!
I don’t know who else it would work with or if all are different.
My tips – Dont just ejaculate and stop. Keep doing something you enjoy… Then trade off help her out. Keep yourself in tune as they can also hurt if you do too many times and gets raw, etc. Keep your dialog open so you can satisfy each other’s flesh in your marriage as God intended.